The reason why no women raised their hand, and why I wouldn't either, is because we picked up on the key words "a man who can't control his...". I wouldn't want a man who can't control something, no matter what it is. It's not that we don't want a man with an insatiable appetite for making love to us. We want a man who harnesses the monster and CAN control himself or say "No". In that way, yes. That is true freedom. Knowing that you could give in to desires, but exercising that restraint and control. In my past, it has mostly been me who has the higher sex drive (to the point some men have felt emasculated and insufficient), but I want a man who definitely can control himself. Yes, I would surely want to know his "yes" means something. If he can't say no, he would take it from anywhere, not just me. And it would cease to mean anything special.
As Father Mike Schmitz talked about in one of his recent homilies, men should have “competent generosity”—The ability to harness their strength and power and put it at the service of others. (In this case sex drive). Women want that same competent generosity in the bedroom, too.
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